I like to play Words with Friends on my phone. It keeps my mind busy, and I prefer it to browsing the web on my phone or playing something as stupefying as Candy Crush.
I have several games running at once, mostly with people I've been playing with for a while. Hi Nance! Nance usually kicks my arse.
Once in a while, though, I will press the "Random Opponent" button and match up with an unknown. I've come across some fairly weird people. One of them berated me for not playing "faster" and making (I am assuming it was a him, based on his user name) him wait for two whole days. He then insulted me and resigned. I asked for a rematch, and then told him that I was sorry I had made him wait, but as my phone had broken and needed to be repaired, his priorities were not at the top of my list. Well, I said it better than that, but I know I made him feel like the jerk he truly was. Then I resigned, because I always have to have the last word.
Anyway, the other day I went for a new random opponent, and it started off as a regular game. Two words into the game, I saw that my opponent had "texted" me. I inwardly groaned. Maybe outwardly, too. Experience had shown me that not much good came from people texting you early in the game.
Sure enough, I looked to find the oh-so-eloquent, "ur woman or man."
I replied, "What does it matter?" and resigned.
That didn't keep my new friend from replying with a vulgarism that made me feel attacked. Sure, this person was trying to stupidly find someone for sexytimes on Words with Friends, but I couldn't believe that I actually had to encounter that in my life. I felt assaulted, to be honest. I wanted to write back, "This isn't Tinder, asshole" but I refrained.
But that is what females encounter all the time. I've been verbally assaulted before, usually to my face by some guy thinking that making a vulgar comment about my body will just make me want to fall into bed with him (this is when I was much younger, mind you). And so it had been a long time since I felt those feelings of being violated and reduced to a body part.
I didn't like it then, and I sure as hell don't like it now.
It will probably be a while until I hit the "Random Opponent" button, I'm thinking.