For whatever reason, I just cannot seem to find the time to visit your actual sites and comment. I think it has been all the end of the year stuff, coupled with T-ball and all sorts of other things that have been occupying my attention. I am sorry, and I promise to be by soon.
But in the meantime, I am going to write about something that has been on my mind for a while. It will probably be lacking in sense and logic, but that has never stopped me from writing anything before, so why should I let it bother me now?
When I first began writing at my "other blog" I was so excited. I thought, oooh, some sort of legitimacy as a writer. Someone was actually willing to pay me money to write!
And yes, it isn't a normal sort of mommyblog because we are pretty much all over the place, but I kind of like it that way.
Back in November when we were having a contest with over two hundred bucks worth of prizes, my boss directed that I send emails to all of the top mommyblogs, asking nicely if they would mention our contest on their blog. And of course, if they linked to us, we would link to them and all kinds of nicey-nicey stuff like that.
So think of a fairly big name blogger and I probably sent it to her, minus Dooce and finslippy and Fussy. I was pretty sure any email from me would wind up immediately in their spam folder.
And do you know that out of the fifty or so emails I sent out, only ONE site responded? It was acutally 5 Minutes for Mom, which sort of specializes in contests. But still, to be just totally ignored? Did they not want to give their readers a chance to win some good prizes? Were they suspicious of our motives, seeing as how we were a "for profit" sort of site?
And I find that to be the case with practically all of the mommyblogs, except for people who knew us before we began blogging there. No reciprocal links, no "hey, thanks for mentioning me on your link round-up!" All the things they would do if the blogger were a "regular" blogger. But we get nada, zip, zilch. It is like we don't even exist. It is like a link is worth a pound of flesh, too dear to give up.
And for the life of me I can't understand why. As writers, as women, shouldn't we be supporting sites that pay us to write? Instead of shunning us, they should be glad to give recognition to a site where the writers are valued enough to get paid. Which happens not a whole lot here on the internets.
I happen to think that there are fabulous bloggers out there. Better than me, who wirte more interesting and engaging things than what I see in newspapers and magazines. Why shouldn't there be a culture of valuing what we write instead of giving it away? Why is profit such a taboo thing?
Am I crazy? Probably. Am I an A-list blogger? Not in a "pure" mommyblogging sense, I suspect.
But hell, I'll take a paycheck over social acceptance any day.